When i was let go from a job i had been employed at for over a year i was startled (this happened awhile ago). I had never been let go from a job before, usually i beat them to the punch and let myself go when i was bored or just ready for something different. Anyways i remember my boss trying to explain the reason behind his decision and he said something along the lines of " there are just some things we are incapable of learning, and this was one of those things". Don't quote me but it was along those lines. This job had become family to me and my boss was someone i wanted to be proud of me and to impress, so i took it very personally. I don't have any ill feelings towards my boss or the company, but it was devastating mainly because of his spontaneous decision.
A few nights later i was talking to my new roommate, who i declare most wise, about my life (past and present). She said that she just knew we were going to have this conversation, she just had a feeling about it, probably because she knew she was going to say something awesome...and she did. She said something that i will remember for the rest of my life partly because it made me laugh , but mostly because it was SO true. My wise roommate said " who is he to tell you you are incapable of something. HIS POOP SMELLS TOO! Even the Queen of England's poop smells." (just keep in mind my roommate was the hotter version of Pocahontas and every guy drooled over her). Once she said that i just started laughing, it made perfect sense. No one can tell you what you are capable of or what you can and can't do except you. So i tried to brush it off.
For some reason my roommates quote reminds me of another quote "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her" (John 8:7). Now this just got serious! Im bringing up fecal matter and religion WTF, but i will try and explain the relevance (this could be a stretch). Christ faced a mob that was eager to execute a woman caught in adultery. He put a stop to it with a simple challenge: anyone who has no sin in their life should step forward and throw the first stone. That sentence is often cited as a reminder to avoid judging others when there are faults in your own life that need to be addressed (aka "your poop smells too" it might not be adultery but its something else, big or small).
I live in a very saturated mormon culture who are suppose to refrain from judging others, but man do we judge the most. if someone has a tattoo we judge. if we see someone not take the sacrament we judge. if a missionary comes home early we judge. if someone is divorced we judge. Who are we to judge and size someone up for mistakes they've made or problems they have to face when we ourselves are mistake ridden. My bishops wife once made a comment that i loved about people we see not taking the sacrament, she said, " well they could have chosen not to come to church that day or ever again, but they are here! And they are so awesome for being here". Everyones poop smells and we all have our own crap to deal with, literally and figuratively. And do you think that judging someone may be crippling to them? make them feel unworthy or incapable? When my boss let me go he wasn't "casting the first stone" but he was making a judgement call that i was incapable of developing some talent he was looking for and he could have been right. But what if he had given me something to work on and I could have changed things? You never know.
Dangit, another run-on sentence. I ramble when I'm outside my knowledge zone and this post didn't make sense. But in summation "your poop smells too". Everyone has skeletons in their closet, regret, old wounds, imperfections, and mistakes they've made or others have made for them, but who am i to judge or label them when my poop smells too.
A few nights later i was talking to my new roommate, who i declare most wise, about my life (past and present). She said that she just knew we were going to have this conversation, she just had a feeling about it, probably because she knew she was going to say something awesome...and she did. She said something that i will remember for the rest of my life partly because it made me laugh , but mostly because it was SO true. My wise roommate said " who is he to tell you you are incapable of something. HIS POOP SMELLS TOO! Even the Queen of England's poop smells." (just keep in mind my roommate was the hotter version of Pocahontas and every guy drooled over her). Once she said that i just started laughing, it made perfect sense. No one can tell you what you are capable of or what you can and can't do except you. So i tried to brush it off.
For some reason my roommates quote reminds me of another quote "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her" (John 8:7). Now this just got serious! Im bringing up fecal matter and religion WTF, but i will try and explain the relevance (this could be a stretch). Christ faced a mob that was eager to execute a woman caught in adultery. He put a stop to it with a simple challenge: anyone who has no sin in their life should step forward and throw the first stone. That sentence is often cited as a reminder to avoid judging others when there are faults in your own life that need to be addressed (aka "your poop smells too" it might not be adultery but its something else, big or small).
I live in a very saturated mormon culture who are suppose to refrain from judging others, but man do we judge the most. if someone has a tattoo we judge. if we see someone not take the sacrament we judge. if a missionary comes home early we judge. if someone is divorced we judge. Who are we to judge and size someone up for mistakes they've made or problems they have to face when we ourselves are mistake ridden. My bishops wife once made a comment that i loved about people we see not taking the sacrament, she said, " well they could have chosen not to come to church that day or ever again, but they are here! And they are so awesome for being here". Everyones poop smells and we all have our own crap to deal with, literally and figuratively. And do you think that judging someone may be crippling to them? make them feel unworthy or incapable? When my boss let me go he wasn't "casting the first stone" but he was making a judgement call that i was incapable of developing some talent he was looking for and he could have been right. But what if he had given me something to work on and I could have changed things? You never know.
Dangit, another run-on sentence. I ramble when I'm outside my knowledge zone and this post didn't make sense. But in summation "your poop smells too". Everyone has skeletons in their closet, regret, old wounds, imperfections, and mistakes they've made or others have made for them, but who am i to judge or label them when my poop smells too.
